I want to be the best mother that treat her daughter in the best possible way. I know it is tough, I shout sometimes, not to use the phone excessively. What are the best things I can do to improve her as a daughter and as a family member?
I saw your message and the things you care deeply about. Replace shouting with relaxed and casual conversations.
Explain to them why rules matter instead of just enforcing them, and kids respond better to understanding than authority.
I think you’re already on the right path, honestly.
When you are parenting, all you need to do is listen, and listen.
A bad day, worries, and friends - she can talk about, and people really hear her.
Dear, you know that active listening builds trust, and she’ll actually want your guidance in the future rather than feeling shy.
Remember this always: Connection before correction always works.
Apologize when you mess up.
Shouting unfairly is not the solution. Say sorry to her.
What you need to teach is about accountability and show her that everyone can make a mistake.
Perfect parents don’t exist, but honest ones raise emotionally healthy kids. Model what you want to see.
Catch her doing things right and praise specifically.
“I noticed you helped your sister without being asked.”
This would be a lot better than a generic “good job.”
This positive reinforcement surfaces the more cooked behavior, rather than consistent criticism of them.
Focus on building up, not tearing them down.
Set clear expectations together, not just rules imposed from above. Involve her in family decisions age-appropriately.
When kids feel heard and valued, they naturally become better family members.
Collaboration beats control every single time.
For me, quality time matters the most.
I have the best plan for you: Focused 30 minutes daily means a lot - playing, talking, and cooking together.
What will it do? This beats hours of distracted presence.
Put your phone away, too, during this time. She’ll remember how you made her feel, not your lectures.
You need to be flexible, not always consistent.
Have non-negotiable areas (respect, safety) and areas for negotiation (screen time limits, chores).
You know that rigid parenting creates rebellion; total permissiveness creates chaos. Balance is hard but worth it.
You’ve got this!